There are too many hype around the idea of teenagers coming of age stories. How to adjust life in university, how to start becoming a young adult, find your partner, falling in love. That’s all interesting and a part of life but let’s get real, it’s nothing like turning 30!
Turning 30 is a big significant shift in a woman’s life. Graduating university is nothing compared to finding the right job for you. You think you’re becoming an adult? Wait til you’re turning 30 and still wondering how to adult. Falling in love? Pfff, try staying in love. But all in all it’s nothing compared to asking yourself if you want kids.
Turning 30 means that she is entering her prime to start having kids. This essentially affects many other decisions in her life, especially regarding work.
Men reading this might not realize that one of the most difficult decision is to choose whether we want to move up with our career or give up this time of growth to start a family. Some might say you can have both and that is true but having both may also mean you are half-assing both. Even if you try your very best, you cannot excel at both. Unless of course you are the 3% that are financially capable of getting long holidays. You still want to give your kids quality time on the first 10 years of their life and making sure they turn into decent human beings. Not easy!
But let’s play this out. You are about to get promoted. You’ve worked at your firm for over 3-4 years and you are about to reach a higher level position in your career. At the same time you’re turning 30, in your 30s or getting into your mid 30s. You want to have kids. If you want more than 1 kid, you have to start now. If you are still single and ready to mingle, that extends your time even more in potentially finding the father of your child. Even if you already found the future father of your child, you are left to decide if you want to get the promotion and wait a year or two longer to have kids or give up the promotion.
Turning 30 is tough. It’s because we are in our prime that we could actually do ANYTHING but we are biologically forced to choose to plan ahead of how it plays out. If you waste your late 20s still figuring out who you wanna be, you’ll have your 30s rushing to meet up with it. If you’re lucky, you’ll catch up. If not, you’ll settle. This is not even touching on financials….
Women, we have more responsibilities than men. We should be proud of that because we are capable of so much more. But within that it means that we have to make the tough decisions men don’t have to make and will never truly understand its dilemma. Don’t blame it on anything, it’s just biology. We are made stronger to withstand more pressure, more breaking points, more problems to solve. Don’t waste your time underestimating yourself and get ready to turn 30!
