Feel hurt and pain when you’re young because trust me, the pain and hurt when you’re older have a more lasting effect.
In some cultures, people act conservatively and walk along the line. They get good grades, they don’t date, they’re not promiscuous and they don’t get in trouble. Then they get old, they get married and they cheat on their wives or husbands and they develop weird obsessions.
Well, that escalated quickly…
But it’s true. They act out later in life all because they feel like they missed out on the experience they should have gotten when they were younger. And it’s true, they have. But the difference is that when you were younger, your baggage is smaller and less important while in your adult life, you have jobs, family, assets, and things you’ve worked hard for that can be taken away with the wrong move.
See, we all, I believe, are programmed to experience the same life lessons. We have to know what heartache feels like. We have to experience loss. We need to struggle to find ourselves. We have to be lost to reconnect with who we are. We all go through the same lessons but in different circumstances and timing. But some things are easier to learn when you’re young, just like how they say you learn new languages better when you’re 10 vs. 30. The precautions and effects in life between 15 and 50 have a big difference. You definitely have more to lose with the more you’ve accomplished in life.
If you’ve never explored the world and you somehow realize at the age of 40, with 3 kids and a spouse, that you needed to do that for yourself. Sometimes the people around you are not on the same page. You have someone depending on you and yet you found out you can’t depend on yourself because you’ve failed to please yourself with life. So, you then have to rob others of their time and experiences because you need to find out who you are. In the end, you are going to have to do it for your own sake but it will be at others’ expense as well. Get your shit together or at least as much as you think you can before you involve other people in your life because they didn’t sign up for that.
Maybe that’s what a mid-life crisis is but I don’t think it only occurs at the age of 40 or 50, we have life crises at every stage of change in life. We compare ourselves to our peers with what each of us accomplished but forget that we all want different things in life. Why would you compare the life of a sea turtle to a zebra? They don’t need the same things and they aren’t hunted by the same predators. Yes, the fear and the emotions might be alike but the tricks and mindset would have to be different.
Life is like a game. The end game is death but in between that we collect coins and points and adventures and journeys. The coins represent experiences like love and pain in relationships, friendship, traveling, and growing and learning new things. Each coin also has different points. Some lessons are easier than others, earning you more points. But remember some coins are fake and they take away your points. So don’t go chasing fake coins and lose what you’ve earned and accomplished because the more you’ve grown the more you have to lose.
This might make no sense to anyone but the point is that you are held accountable to the people around you and to yourself. Therefore, to save others and yourself from unnecessary drama, figure yourself out early on in life so that you won’t regret anything or the least in the future. There will be less childhood trauma if all parents worked on themselves a little more before forgetting about their own existence. Let’s make our world a better place by working more on ourselves!
