Have you ever watched those serial killer series where the predator is super charming and makes people “fall in love” with them before making them their prey? This might sound far fetch but in the realm of falling in love, my advice, you shouldn’t.
Wait, hold up, and let me explain! Calm your sheeeee…
The term itself uses a negative word, “fall”. It is because when you fall in love you leave logic behind the door and let your emotions stir the wheel. And when emotion stirs the wheel it’s like riding on either those bumpy cars or a roller coaster, all fun but never lasting.
This might go against all the romanticism in you. If you’re the romantic type who wants a loving relationship that is lasting, there needs more logic than just “love”. But like what is love really?
When you start to care for someone a lot and you’re learning about your partner more and more each day with habits, quirks, pet peeves and all. But in the beginning of every relationship we all put on our rosy-filtered-glasses and hit ‘ignore’ on those red flags. This is why after dating for a while, you feel comfortable and begin to take off the glasses and notice again the red flags they seem to forget was there and suddenly feel disappointed. But the fact is that it has always been there.
Putting logic aside while you’re falling in love is understandable and it comes from fear. The fear of disappointment. But tough luck, if you’re disappointed now what makes you think it won’t happen again. This is where logic comes in and it goes hand in hand with communication.
This is where reality hits and the romance is dimmed. We have to confront the issues we encounter head on because if not, it will for sure come back again and this time it would be even harder to talk about. Many skip the talk and just call it quits and often find the same issues on another relationship.
Love can only grow with time. You might think you love someone at the beginning of the relationship but that’s just the spark in which the first root has sprung out of the seed. In time you’ll find out more things to love in your partner but also learn to love the things you might not like and you’ll grow fonder of each other in ways you never think you would. That is what love is. Loving with reason and understanding!
