As Gary Zukav explained in his interviews and more elaborately in his book, we do things only with two sets of intentions: love or fear.
Although the words sound polar opposite and have definitions that easily differentiate them, in reality, the line between love and fear is difficult to see. You can only really understand your intentions when you dissect into your thoughts and action. You might think you’re coming from love but is it through fear of loss and pain?
Love makes the world go round. We water our plants for the love of life. We read books for our love of knowledge. We cook for our families for our love of fulfillment and health. But when there’s love, there’s always the fear of losing what you love and that is most often how we react to things. We scold and yell at people we love because we love them but our actions and words didn’t come from the part of love, it comes from the part of fear. Fear for their pain and our pain. Fear that it will consequently hurt us.
How often do you argue with the people you love and couldn’t understand why they can’t see that you are coming from love? That’s because you’re not coming from love, although it is true that you do love them, your intentions of the argument come from fear.
You might use words that make sense and well described but what is felt by the other person on the other end of that conversation is the intentions behind it. And without you even knowing that your intentions came from fear, you see the reaction as being hurt or angry which makes you also then angry in turn. But if you really rethink what you said with your true intentions unconsciously at that moment, you would understand the consequence of your action with the kind of response.
It is not wrong to have fear. It is hard-wired in our DNA as our ancestors had to survive in the wild. The importance is to be careful and be in tune with your emotions and intentions. If you ever feel angry for whatever reason, stop and ask yourself, what am I fearing? It will open you to worlds you can’t imagine about your true self.
When fear arises, pause then finds your place of love and act but never act or respond in fear.
As Gary Zukav said in his interview with Oprah, we need to start working more on ourselves and less on others.
