As my date approaches, feelings start flooding over me, both good ones and bad ones. There’s so much that goes on in a woman’s head that we ourselves don’t understand. That is probably why they say that women are complicated, anyways. I sit with my girlfriends at a coffee shop to evaluate the date and this is what I’ve come to realize of the checklist we all go through as we meet someone new. It applies to even meeting new friends, co-workers etc. But this is the checklist, at least, my friends and I similarly go through. You are probably familiar with the image of a robot scanning a human being for any dangerous unknown material, women do the same. As soon as you walk in, we turn on our radar.
Starting with the…
Face: good looking, looks better than picture, worst, ok…?
Body: too muscular, too thin, too fat, perfect body (that depends on the woman’s preference of course)
Height: too tall, too short, perfect height?
Clothes: now this is tricky… if the girl is properly dressed and you are underdress, that’s a red alert. You’d have to work really hard on your personality. If you dress casual but still looks clean, you might get a pass. Formal clothes depends on the situation, are you coming straight from work, if so then that’s hot. But if that makes her feel underdress, she might feel bad and just shut down. See, really tricky here.
As you sit down it’s now all about the feels. Women’s radar works like magic. We cannot control it but it sends us signals to how we feel before we understand what we are feeling. This is why sometimes the date seemed to have gone well but then suddenly you never hear from her again?
Now we scan for words that come out of your mouth…
Work: this is actually very important in many aspects. Are you capable of taking care of her in the future? Even if she may not plan to ever see you again, knowing that you can provide, helps make you seem more attractive in nano-seconds. Do you have your shit together? It doesn’t matter if your job is in fact boring but knowing that you might spoil her with a fancy dress will turn her on, even if she already buys closet full of clothes on her own, we like options.
How you talk about your work: this is also complicated. If you brag about your job, that is a definite turn off. Being humble is the key. Yo! You can be proud but keep it simple, if she is interested to hear more, she will ask.
FAMILY: if the woman you are on a date with is close to her family, knowing that you are too, is an AWW moment. This gives you bonus points. And if you like kids or have pictures with kids, she might even look pass your hair line. It must be some sort of biology stuff on reproduction, I swear.
Commonalities: this is just logic, you don’t need to have many things in common but finding that real mutual passion is a great key to a successful date which will help score for the next date or even later the night.
Pass relationship: “I just got out of a relationship” is a turn off. Not everyone goes on a date pinning on the thought of finding their next serious relationship, so calm your tips down and just read for her signal. You know when in cartoons the door closes and makes that WOOSH noise, that’s how women’s legs go, when you announced that you don’t want anything serious. You haven’t earned that many points for a relationship. HOWEVER, if you bring it up in some topic and it’s not awkward, we let it slide.
As the date ends one part that is very important is the chivalry in offering to pay. How women reacts to this weighs in on the chances of you getting some action. Here’s the thing, most women like that men are able to financially take care of them so this keeps you in the sexy scale. If you are on a date with a very confident and independent woman, don’t push it. She might let you pay if she feels that there might be a second date, where she will then offer to pay. If she offers to split, then you might not be getting laid, if the option was even there from the beginning.
Now be confident and go sweep her off her feet!
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