We often try to find love in ways that we would show others our love. For example, you might make coffee for your partner every day as a sign of caring and effort of your love. But it doesn’t mean that your partner will show their love the same way as you do.
Sometimes we are so busy giving love and attention to someone that we feel as if we are not being taken care of. That doesn’t mean that you’ve been ignored. It might be because you are overwhelmed with the attention you are giving, you forget to pause and look at what others are doing for you.
Take a moment to notice the simple things the people who love you do for you.
People show their love in their own little ways. We often overlook those small things because sometimes it looks more like an obligation when it comes from people like our parents, who always never get enough gratitude. Your mother didn’t just randomly send you a weird video on Facebook because she found it funny, it’s because she misses you and she wants to start some sort of conversation. Your bestie got you some sample products from the store not because they just got them for free and didn’t want it. They could have kept it even if they might not use it but the fact that they thought you might like it, is because they have you on their mind. People who love you do things with good intentions though to you it may look normal.
As for a romantic relationship, it might not always be about the grand gestures. When you start a life with someone, you can’t always chase the big moments. You have had your big moments before you became serious and committed or married, now it’s about the small details in life that count every single day. How you take care of each other is more important than if you go out on dates or that they buy you gifts. It’s in simple moments that you take into account each other that makes the lifelong journeys.
Why do you think they say that if a partner helps with the house chores that they will be together longer? It’s not about having to do those things, but it’s the consideration that counts. It could be any other gesture. You’ve chosen to be each other’s life partners, therefore you have to be each other’s support system and not a burden. Once you’ve become a burden then the relationship has become a one-way street and if you don’t build that parallel line soon then there might not be a return.
So, don’t take for granted the small gestures. If you want to spend the rest of your life with someone you have to see the big picture. If you only count the rosy days then you are out of luck because there will be those cloudy days and how you treat each other on those days is what makes life less gloomy. Look at the big picture. You don’t want to spend a lifetime trying to impress someone. You should be content with the simple to be able to be together for the long haul.
Now the next time you feel unloved, make sure you take a moment to really see what has happened around you. As my friend use to remind me, “don’t forget to smell the roses’ (or as for me it’s to look up at the clouds). Always feel gratitude towards life and love.
