More than often we use love as an excuse….
I did that because I love him.
I’m controlling because I love my kids.
I don’t want them to get hurt because I love them very much.
What is apparent to those statements is that its all about ‘YOU’.
It’s how you might feel versus how those you want to protect actually is feeling or might feel but nonetheless it is simply all about you in the end. You are the one you are protecting from those feelings.
See, love, true love, the pure unconditional love is patient and kind.
The other feeling of worried, guilt, jealousy, anxiety is not the love that you feel but the fear in affect from loving that person so much.
True love will actually make you become a better person. The positive, happy and less anxious person. When you allow someone to better you and improve you without feeling that you were less than and that it’s a mutual benefit, that’s a healthy kind of love.
Always remember that control is not love, it is an act of selfishness. It is one thing to ask for respect and loyalty but it always has to be within the other persons willingness. Plus, if you cannot truly trust someone, there is no point to continue the relationship (any kind of relationship). Trust has to come first even before commitment because without trust there won’t be true commitment. If you always leave space for doubt and fear, it will definitely creep into your relationship.
Who says love is easy. Love is nothing but hard work and effort. Which is why you will grow to only become a better person. If not, you need to start questioning that love.
People have such unrealistic idea of love that even our parents fail to do. So why do we put so much pressure on our love ones when we ourselves can’t love without conditions?
Whenever you feel that fiery burn in your body, that frustration or anger, just remember that it has nothing to do with them and ALL to do with YOU!
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