My friend once said that women are such an amazing creature but we are so full hearted that we don’t see how great we are. Not to sound egoistic or obnoxious but there are some very unique qualities in women that comes from empathy and kindness where men take as weakness. But it is not easy to balance strength and kindness. It is not a matter of the sexes but simply a human factor. What does it have to do with relationship? Well, we become easily doubtful of ourselves and because we are so use to men taking our kindness for weakness we develop trust issues and commitment phobias.
It is almost with a 100% certainty that women, when they are stepping into a new relationship, are afraid to fully commit or establish any exclusivity unless it is brought up by a man. Yet, women who are successfully in a relationship have to be bold enough to bring it up first. Why? Because there are higher chances of men falling into the excuse of “we haven’t said we are exclusive” than women.
See, I don’t understand why labelling it is so important from just the fact that if you really see someone in your future you would try harder not to ruin things. Are we so ignorant to people’s feelings that you think by saying “we haven’t said we are exclusive”, it would a sound excuse and all will be ok? That is pretty stupid.
Someone once told me, she had to say it to her boyfriend that if he cheats, she would leave him. Can you believe it? You actually have to tell someone that!
We all have doubts and trust issues and the faster someone can burn those doubts that occasionally pops up in your head then that’s the kind of secure relationship you want to be in. But if every doubt creates even more doubts and uncertainty then do yourself a favor and realize that the person you are with doesn’t picture you in their future. And that’s ok, we are not looking for ten prospects, we are just looking for one.
Being faithful is hard. Being a good person is hard. If it was easy we would be living in a different kind of world. So just remember that there’re no good excuses in making a mistake. Just make sure you can live with those consequences. And if you are with someone who can eliminate those doubts little by little, then consider yourself lucky.
“Love should feel secure but wild.” Wild is when you start to feel nervous and frustrated but yet secure because that person can eliminate those doubts.
