In life, we encounter many different stages, in many different circumstances and settings. We enter new jobs, meet new friends or settle into a new environment. Because everything is new, we find ourselves trying to fit in and we try to understand the language of this newness we’re embarking in. It could be exciting at first but often times fear sets in and it could feel scary. The fear of not wanting to be different from the crowd or not wanting to be different from the rest. We then try hide what makes us who we are and start to dim our own light.
Maybe you were once this outspoken, bright person but because you are in a new group of people you try not to stand out or shy away from situations that you normally wouldn’t. It is normal to test the water and see where you fit in but don’t forget who you are. If you keep dimming your light, one day you will find that you will resent yourself and you might forget who you are. Once your light is out, so will your happiness.
It is hard not to fear and wonder if the people around you could accept or can handle your big personality or not. But that is their problem and not yours. You cannot be what you aren’t and you are doing a disservice to yourself by being something that you are not. Don’t dress down for people and don’t act stupid when you know you are smart. Don’t play the part you are not auditioning for.
People can be uncomfortable with your brightness but like moving from the dark to the light, it just takes a little time for the eyes to adjust.
