Love is the most confusing thing that we can never really understand. It is extremely overrated but it has also lived in so many different narratives that its essence is lost in tales and hearsay.
Nevertheless, love begins from within.
In every type of relationship we disconnect them and think that they are in isolated category but if you understand nature and nurture, love began from the day we started understanding the world. That first love is the bond we have with our parents and that love defies every future relationships in our lives. So, if you think you are bad at relationships then you might have to question how your relationship is with your parents and what do you feel that you lack or is seeking for in someone else?
This is not to have you start blaming your parents for how you cannot love or understand love. They themselves have their parents to blame as well. We are very flawed humans and we cannot simply make every right decisions in life. The point I’m trying to assert is that if you want to know why we are so bad at relationships, start taking into account how your relationships began.
Look back but don’t reminicse.
See how your relationship with the people that are around you most of your lives are. You may not remember what happened when you were 2 or 3 years old but I’m pretty sure your unconscious memory never let you forget. It is like a trained emotion we have that we don’t know why until we dig deep. This is why people go to a therapist.
Once you try to connect the dots you might be able to untangle the knots you have inside of you that you never knew was even there.
We all want whats best for us. We all want love. Yet, you wonder why sometimes you can’t seem to let yourself be happy. It’s never really about other people. Even if the relationship is bad you have a choice to rise above it or feel like you deserve better. It is you who makes the decision. So why are you choosing to be in pain? Don’t you feel like you deserve better?
If you want a good relationship with the people you care about, you have to start looking into yourself before you start blaming other people. You can’t control how others feel or react but you are also part of the equation so you can’t be the one that’s right all the time either. So before you accuse anyone of being whatever they are to you, make sure you’re not that to them as well.
This is probably the most confusing and complicated topic to write about so I will end with this video:
